Since times immemorial, men have been competing for lovers. Way back before we evolved to our current level, the process of attracting a mate both suitable and desirable may have been somewhat different to the one we’re accustomed to now in the 21st century. Presently, intersex relationships seem as though they function on a level of assurance and emotion as opposed to raw animal instinct, for that reason it may be important that you commit the following sternly to memory.
10. Become the Best Man You Can Be
If you want to succeed with women, you need to master the art of self-improvement. Most men want to have more — or better — women in their lives. However, they don’t know how to make it happen. Many men think it takes movie-star looks and rock-star money to attract desirable women, the sad truth of this being however that most just simply have no clue how to beckon such women. It’s not pickup lines or fancy clothes or losing a few pounds, if you really want to get an attractive woman to notice you, take the time to develop something unique and interesting about yourself. Who you really are on the inside plays a bigger role in your dating life than any superficial fixes. Showing a woman that you’re a gentleman is a powerful way to stand out from the crowd, and the smallest gestures go a very long way. Open a door for her and pull out a chair. Make sure you walk on the outside of the sidewalk. Put your hand on the small of her back when walking into a restaurant or across the street. You won’t believe how quickly these small things set you apart from 99% of other men.
9. Don’t be a Desperate
Women dismiss a fair amount of prospective males on the grounds of ‘being creepy’, so it’s obviously important that you avoid such categorization at all costs. Championship coaches tell their winning players, “act like you’ve been here before”, and that’s exactly what you need to do with women. The best way to lose a woman you have a lot of interest in is to get possessive, desperate and start calling her 10 times a day, no matter how natural it may seem. Strive simply to accept things the way they are, respect woman, their space and their right to their own thoughts and feelings. Once you do, you’ll have the power to redirect things as you move into the future.
8. Be a Little Feisty
Feisty men are those who refuse to let women take control of them. Women like what they can’t have easily, and having a little bit of a feisty attitude may help. Of course you’ve got to gauge the patience and nature of the respective woman first of all, as there are unfortunately those who prefer the opposite in their men. You may like her and want nothing more than a retort of such feeling, however unless you give her space she may never be interested. Your feisty-ness should in turn also be confined somewhat, as too much of it can understandably become irritating. You know the expression about absence making the heart grow fonder? Well, it’s true. So make her miss you: let her wonder where you are, whom you’re with and where you’re going, and she will hope to cross paths with you more often than you think.
7. Use “Little Things” to Woo Her
There are a ton of “little things” that women look for to help them make big decisions about what kind of man you are. They instantly tell women whether or not you are worthy of a second thought. Maintaining eye contact, strong posture, not fidgeting; all of these are aspects worth deep and careful consideration. To make matters more complicated, women tend to make these decisions on a subconscious level. They don’t look at a man then say to a friend- “well, he maintained eye contact when I first looked at him, then he held his head up high in a dominant posture, so, I’m going to give him a chance.” Practice these simple steps and a woman will naturally want to spend more time with you.
6. Sound Smart and Take Initiative
Don’t be afraid to make a move on her. You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to sound smart. Creativity plus stuff you already know can create a powerful attraction with woman. Imagine how you’d come across if you were the most confident guy on the planet. You’d seem so in control that you’d be in no rush. You don’t need to make it a big deal or even call it a date. Just ask her if she wants to go get some lunch or a coffee and get to know her. Even if you know just enough about her to merely start a conversation, use it in your approach and you’ll sound smart. Relate it to her (“did you know the indirect lighting in here makes your eyes look even bluer?”) and she’ll be hooked, guaranteed.
5. Show Some Class and be Dominant
You don’t have to be James Bond to work out that women are attracted to men with class. Keeping a few simple details and gestures in mind can go a very long way in helping you become all the more alluring in the eyes of a woman. For example, make sure your shoes and belt match, learn a little about wine or even a few pretentious foreign movies. Broaden your musical taste, hold open doors for her. Women really notice this stuff, and it pays big dividends in terms of raw attraction. Even if you’re yet to read it in a psychological textbook, you’ll already know it in your gut: most women have a subconscious attraction to dominant men. Although demonstrating dominance never means being overly aggressive, pushy or rude, it does mean taking strong action to get what you want. Try it. You’ll get her attention readily.
4. Make Her the Center of Your Universe
When a woman says, “I only like you as a friend” or “ I’ve been hurt, so I want to take this slow” or “I like you so much, I don’t want to lose you as a friend”, or any of the million or so variations of such statements, it can sometimes mean that you’re not doing the things it takes to create essential attraction. If you find yourself on the receiving end of a bypassing comment like this, maybe it’s time to stop being such a ‘nice guy’ and start doing the things you’re learning from this article in an attempt to spark some chemistry. Have you heard? Women like attention. Interestingly, it’s much better to hint at that kind of attention than to be over the top in providing it. For example, instead of buying flashy gifts or dropping obvious compliments, try saying- “I was thinking about you today” or “I just wanted to mention that I really like hearing your voice on the phone”. Please her mind and ego alike by showing a (genuine) interest in her family, friends, work, interests, hobbies, dreams, aspirations and she will be more likely to fall for you. Make sure you let her answer you instead of shooting off a further 20 questions. It lets her know she means enough to be in your thoughts at all times, a very powerful way to stand out of the crowd.
3. Leave Her Wanting More
She looks at you, smiles back, but doesn’t at all feel the same about you as you do about her. This is the time when you need her to believe that she wants you in her life. The best way is to achieve this is to leave her wanting more, that is to end everything you share together on a high note. If she asks you to teach her something, teach her something great that she loves; then, when she asks you to teach her more, tell her, “next time.” If you go somewhere really fun with her and she’s having a great time, leave to go and do something else. When you’re talking to a woman on the phone for the first time, and the conversation is going great, that’s the time to let her know you have to run. This gets her asking herself why you didn’t ask her out, and if she’s going to get to talk to you again.
2. Be Interesting
What do women want? I’ll tell you what they don’t want: They don’t want to be bored. Sadly, most guys bore women to death, and then wonder why they never get a chance. The solution is to become a deeply interesting guy — the kind of guy women love to learn more about and can’t resist being around. It’s very important to smile and present yourself in a positive manner. Turn everything into adventure, learn to tell a great story and find topics that are naturally interesting to talk about.
1. Be Funny and Teasing
I say that humor is magic, and it isn’t an exaggeration. Humor is commonly denoted as being the most effective way to become irresistible to women, even women you might consider “out of your league.” Make a people around you laugh, and I don’t care how hot or unattainable she seems, you’ll trigger positive feelings in her that she just can’t ignore. If you’re not a natural crack-up however, it’s time to learn. How can you be different from the truck loads of boring guys the woman you want has gone out with in the past? One way is to learn how to tease her in exactly the right way, a way that shows her that you are confident, funny and, of course; a challenge. When she asks stupid questions, give stupid answers. In order for you to become the kind of guy who can crack women up with your teasing and sarcastic remarks, you have to get good at your delivery. I’m talking about a delivery that includes such aspects as eye contact, tone of voice and timing; it’s all important. There will always be a few things that she really, really likes. It could be a certain kind of food, a certain way you touch her, a certain experience. When you find something she really likes, stop, pull back and make her really want it before you tease her with a little more. This could easily become the source of her greatest pleasure in the entire relationship.